One of the major tenets of game is that being a self-serving “asshole” will allow you to be much more successful with women. I put the word “asshole” in parentheses because I understand the word differently than a lot of other people. Men of value are often labeled as “assholes” for engaging in certain behaviors and mannerisms that are relatively neutral.
I didn’t laugh at your lame-ass joke?
I didn’t respond to your annoying and cringe-worthy text?
Yeah, I must be such an asshole right?
It is important to understand there are different ways of going about being an “asshole”.
An inexperienced neophyte hears “be a dick = get women” and will often take on the more abrasive aspects of being an ass. Ironically, his insecurities will still shine through. You can always tell how authentic a person is by observing the subtleties of their actions. Instead of coming off as a self-amused cheerful “asshole”, the dude just seems rude and antisocial.
Do not be spiteful.
There is a fine line to walk between playful teasing and tasteless insults.
From the weak-minded perspective of a beta, self-serving behavior is viewed as inconsiderate. The beta lives to please others. His worldview is quite juvenile. He lacks the strength to be secure in his own reality and constantly looks to others to validate his self-worth. Such people try to ingratiate themselves to their perceived superiors, feeding off of their occasional approval.
An alpha lives purely in his own reality.
- He is the king of the world.
- He is on his own time.
- He makes himself scarce.
- He does whatever the fuck he wants (with social tact of course).
Other people either fall into his frame or miss out on the value/fun he provides. Such traits are the essence of leadership. Most people are weak-willed and prefer to be led.
Expressing your value is all in the sub-communication of your actions.
Do you come from a position of strength?
Are you capable of entertaining yourself?
Know that your inner best friend is always there with you. Channeling your inner-value with have other people fight for your attention.
It is up to you whether or not you give it to them.
One of the quickest ways to improve your life is to implement a “no bullshit/no time to waste” policy. Value is all about attitude. The more comfortable you become with your reality, the less other people will concern you. Life grows increasingly under your control. When other peoples’ reactions lose their significance, you gain tremendous power. You get to shamelessly pick and choose how to act.
Some things are not even worth responding to.
I encourage you to use your high value in a positive way. Elevate your friends who are more beta. Think of them as younger brothers. Lead by example. Let your actions show others what strong masculinity is all about.
Being an “asshole” is not about hurting other people.
You are simply being neutral towards them.
There is no obligation to laugh at lame jokes, listen to boring stories, or engage in gossip. It doesn’t make you a “bad person” to put your reality first. It is not your fault if your frame makes other people uncomfortable about their insecurities. You have the choice whether or not to get wrapped up in their banalities and drama…
BE STRONG.
An alpha takes action, a beta reacts.
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