When I first started reading about social dynamics in 2007, I was looking for a quick fix for my inadequacies. Little did I know that I was embarking on an intense journey of self-improvement. Game showed me that I needed to deal with gaping holes in my psyche before I could reach my full potential. Women are merely one pillar of your life. The nature of your sexual interactions reveals a lot about yourself. Game is all about mimicking the actions of a high-value man, and in doing so, actually becoming high-value yourself.
The more I learned, the more mental flaws I had to confront. Dealing with rejection, flakiness, dry spells, and disrespect taught me to re-evaluate my perspective. All of these things are a part of the game. Even the most seasoned players will encounter them. The difference between alphas and betas is how they react to these “setbacks”. No one should tolerate bad behavior.
The most important things that I realized about myself were that: I couldn’t assert myself, couldn’t expose my true personality, reacted too much to other realities, cared too much about other opinions, viewed pussy as scarce, and was looking for an idealized love. These were my fundamental sticking points that were holding me back in all aspects of life. I accepted that I was not perfect. I had to dive deep into my mental landscape in order to get to the root of these insecurities.
Harsh experiences forced me to acknowledge that many of my beliefs were completely fantasy-based. I wanted the world to be a certain way and attempted to rationalize accordingly. The more risks I took, the more my reality changed. There was no seduction trickery to be learned, only self-respect to be cultivated. If a girl doesn’t respond to my text, her number is promptly deleted.
Cultivating an air of indifference turns women on. These days, I want to get laid in general, but not with any particular woman. Your journey of self-discovery may be entirely different than mine. Put the ego aside and confront your imperfections. “Golden game” is not what you think it is. Michael Jordan does not make every single shot. Success will breed more success. The hardest part is getting the ball rolling. Limitations only exist within your head. The best way to develop your charisma is to surround yourself with naturals.
When I first experienced being sexually sated, I turned my interests elsewhere. I saw pussy for what it was… abundant. This attitude has stuck with me ever since. I started wondering why I valued other peoples’ opinions so highly. I learned to understand the nature of love and attraction. I questioned the soundness of other peoples’ frames. I realized that the true route towards happiness and actualization is to take care of number one.
Fixing your limiting beliefs will turn you into a much more attractive man. Such beliefs are false. They only exist because you allow them to exist. Our world is based upon ideas. If you let negative ideas into your head, they will manifest into reality. As I grew up, I internalized the feeling of helplessness that occurred when I was unable to stand up against disrespect. These thoughts snowballed into a generalized anxiety every time I had to deal with confrontation. I genuinely believed that I had no right to be strong because I had such a weak image of myself. This image became reality because my mind accepted it.
Experiencing positive growth made me feel entitled to push back. I had been blind to the abundance and magnificence that surrounded my bubble of despair. My mind had made disrespect appear much worse than it actually was. It can be quite mind-blowing to re-evaluate past attitudes from a position of strength. Things that appeared absolutely terrible at the time are realistically seen as insignificant.
As I have said many times before, the best way to overcome limiting beliefs is to actually experience all the wealth that life has to offer. Even if you start out with just a taste, you will have more leeway for improvement. Chipping away at your mental wall will eventually cause larger chunks to break away. When you catch glimpses of the other side, it becomes much easier to tear the rest of your limitations down.
Somewhere within your mind dwells a true winner. You have the capabilities to let him out. It is your responsibility to find him and to channel his energy. Limitations only exist because you allow them to. Negative self-images are deceptive shadows of your true self.
We make excuses for other people when we over-value them. Do not rationalize the bad behavior of attractive women where you wouldn’t otherwise. At some point in the game, you will internalize positive self-worth. When this happens, you will effortlessly dismiss disrespectful line-steppers and difficult people. Do not give any person special treatment. There is no time or value to waste.