Full Circle

It feels like things have finally come full circle.

When I first started out, I had completely unrealistic expectations of what game actually was. I thought I needed to try harder to get women to see my value.

WRONG.

I was carrying myself in a way that screamed to the world “this guy doesn’t value himself”.

All the girls I wanted gave me the cold shoulder because I put them up on pedestals. When they weren’t immediately down, I made excuses, thinking I could still win them over. Conversely, the girls I couldn’t care less about were all over me, leaving me utterly dumbfounded.

Over the years, experience taught me that the pedestal has no basis in reality. None of those girls that I valued so highly had any virtue whatsoever.

I believed in all the myths.

My mind created imaginary archetypes of who I thought they should be.

Idealism is immaturity.

Now I see that there is no real strategy. You do not need to appease women. You don’t need to think of the perfect thing to say. At some point, you can “just be” (but only after your internal value has been realized).

Women work for you.

They are there to help you relieve your stress, not add to it.

Spend your time building your value and women will be a lot more eager to enter your reality. Investing in yourself will cause you to naturally develop a cocky attitude.

All that you can do is give them a chance. Talk to them, shoot the shit, joke around. Never take them seriously. Don’t try to impress.

No supplication. No chasing. No possessiveness. No pleading. No grovelling. No crying.

If they want to walk, let them walk.

Dudes just care too much… They lean in when they talk. They buy drinks. etc. etc. etc. Where did all their self-respect go? Instead of trying harder, you have to be willing to throw unresponsive prospects away. Experience will teach you how to understand the female language. Read between the lines. What do her actions tell you?

Communicating with women is a lot simpler than it is made out to be. A lot of guys rationalize a lack of interest (especially from an attractive woman), and focus their attention into winning her over. This method completely buys into her frame. If you have to ask how to get a particular woman, you have already lost.

The only way to develop the proper attitude & mentality conducive to slaying is to gain experience. Whether you are shot down brutally or succeed with a triumphant liquid explosion, you will gain knowledge from every interaction.

Communicating with women should be a breeze, not an uphill battle.

If asserting your frame is a constant struggle, drop the troublesome plate and walk away.

No stress. No bullshit.