Watch your thoughts for they become words.
Watch your words for they become actions.
Watch your actions for they become habits.
Watch your habits for they become your character.
Watch your character for it becomes your destiny.
So you want to a better quality of life.
Well, I’ve got great news for you.
The smallest changes in your approach affect everything about you.
However, some of these changes are easier to make than others.
Allow me to blow your mind.
Your Language Defines Your Identity
It takes a lot of time to alter your default mindset or habits.
A more effective way to increase your value is to alter your words.
Change your words change your mindset.
If your word choice reflects abundance, then your brain starts to see you as a winner. However, if your language embodies a sense of lack, your brain keeps you blind to greater possibilities.
Words are actions, which impress themselves on your subconscious mind (the creator of your personal reality).
Adopting high-value phrases helps you understand the vibe of the winning attitude, which makes it easier to internalize.
This is why it’s crucial for your words to reflect the attitude of a winner.
How Do Valuable People Express Themselves?
Weak is he who permits his thoughts to control his actions; strong is he who forces his actions to control his thoughts.
The language of winners ALWAYS comes from a place of abundance.
They never beg, never hate, and sure as hell don’t complain about “competitors” (In fact, they don’t complain at all). Such behaviors all arise out of a mindset that believes you aren’t enough.
To eliminate these tendencies right now, simply switch lower-value phrases with higher-value ones. Switching loser words and phrases instantly makes you come across as more valuable.
Losers Ask For Permission, Winners Assume The Sale
Never hint towards a lack of autonomy or personal power.
Words such as “Need” and “Hate” are in and of themselves low value words.
- Instead of “can I?” say “I’ll have ___.”
- Instead of “do you want to?” say “join me.”
- Instead of hating on something say “It’s not for me”.
- Instead of “can you ___?” use a verb based on context (i.e. “put me in the credits”).
- Instead of “I need to do ___” say “I’m going to ____” (but only if you’ll actually take action).
Notice the loser phrases are usually *questions* and the high-value phrases are usually *statements*.
Questions take value, statements add value.
This doesn’t make the two mutually exclusive, but as a general rule of thumb *statements* tend to be higher-value.
Questions can add value if they’re asking about a topic your subject’s interested in. They’re only low value if they needlessly ask for permission. They’re actually quite valuable when used to collect information.
It’s Not *What* You Do, It’s *How* You Do It
Internalizing an abundant frame of reference through word choice drastically alters your perception.
When your words come from a place of offering value as opposed to leeching value, you’ll find yourself rapidly developing a magnetic personality.
It starts to feel wrong to complain about things or beg others for a piece of their value.
You’ll also align yourself with similar-minded people who are put off by loser language.
Language adds to your posture.
And as you’ve realized: posture while taking action > what you say or do.
Low-Value/High-Value Means Of Expression Are
Your words take you places.
Not through description of the future, but description of *the now*.
(i.e. “I am so glad to _______.)
The words themselves don’t matter as much as the position from which they are conveyed.
The more valuable your speech, the more abrasive loser speaking patterns will be.
Before you know it, it’ll be impossible to associate with certain people (some of whom might be your “friends”) because their language drains you. Trying to force them to eliminate low value phrases is often a losing battle.
All you can really do is find others in tune with abundance and celebrate life.
P.S. If you want to learn more about how your language impacts your reality, check out my post on asking the right questions.
P.P.S. Read “Hidden Language Codes” by R. Neville Johnson.