What Does It Mean To “Be An Asshole”?
Winners are often labeled as “assholes” for neutral behavior.
I didn’t laugh at your lame-ass joke?
I didn’t respond to your annoying and cringe-worthy text?
Yeah, I must be such an asshole right?
There Are Different Ways Of Going About
Being An “Asshole”
Many think “be a dick = get women” and start acting abrasive.
The truth is, insecurities always shine through.
You can always discover the truth about a person by observing their actions.
Instead of coming off as a self-amused cheerful “asshole”, the dude just seems rude and antisocial.
Don’t be spiteful.
There’s a fine line to walk between teasing and insults.
The difference is in the frame.
A loser views self-interest as inconsiderate.
He lives to kiss ass.
His worldview is quite juvenile.
He lacks the strength to be secure in his own reality and looks to others to validate his esteem.
Such losers suck up to winners, feeding off their attention.
A Winner Lives In His Reality
- He’s on his own time.
- He makes himself scarce.
- He’s the king of the world.
- He does whatever the fuck he wants (with social tact of course).
Others either fall into his frame or miss out on the value / fun he provides.
Such traits are the essence of leadership.
Most people are weak-willed and prefer to be led.
Your Actions Express Your Value
Do you come from a position of strength?
Are you capable of entertaining yourself?
Your inner best friend is always there with you.
Channeling your inner-value will have other people fight for your attention.
It’s up to you whether or not you give it to them.
One of the quickest ways to improve your life is to implement a “no bullshit / no time to waste” policy.
Value is all about attitude.
The more comfortable you become with your reality, the less the dramas of others will concern you.
Life grows increasingly under your control.
When other peoples’ reactions lose their significance, you gain tremendous power.
You get to pick and choose how to act.
Some things aren’t even worth responding to.
I encourage you to use your high value in a positive way.
Elevate your friends who are weaker.
Think of them as younger brothers.
Let your actions show others what being a winner’s all about.
Being An “Asshole” Isn’t About Hurting Other People
You’re simply being neutral towards them.
There’s no obligation to:
- Laugh at lame jokes
- Listen to boring stories
- Or engage in gossip.
It doesn’t make you a “bad person” to put your reality first.
It isn’t your fault if your frame makes other people uncomfortable about their insecurities.
You have the choice whether or not to get wrapped up in their drama.
BE STRONG.
A winner takes action, a loser reacts.
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A good thing about this blog is that you update often. Good job.
I’m finding that women just don’t get it and really need real asshole game kind of like what Heartist recommends. I get what you’re saying here. I do. But get this. You’re going to say I’m a bitter beta and coming off that way but I swear–can’t prove it by writing this comment but I really think it’s true–I’m not.
Here’s the thing. I have developed *true* confident, self-amusement, nonattachment to outcome, entertain myself, true achievements. Graduated top of my class from law school at age 24, while being a good looking guy who has always lifted weights, kicked ass in sports, etc. Have slept with 18 women (I’m 37), none less than a true 7 and none weighing more than 130 pounds (and she is 5’7″). I have high standards. I have flat out turned town fatties who literally expressly begged to go home with me…I don’t go hogging. But I do sort of go from one LTR to the next and I have “oneitus.”
But I have *purposely* from a position of true confidence refused to follow *some* of the rules. Like I will compliment a woman and I will sometimes get a nice steak dinner for a first date BECAUSE I AM FUCKING HUNGRY AND I WANT TO EAT STEAK. And I won’t let her pay, of course.
I’ll be playful, teasing, funny, all from a position of self-amusement.
But I swear that every single time the first date is a steak dinner or I’m too nice, the girl WRONGLY concludes I’m beta or “too nice” or whatever and doesn’t return texts. I also don’t do the wait 3 days thing. Out of a position of true confidence. I’m a great catch, this bitch has accomplished very little in her self-centered life, and she’d be VERY luck to be my girlfriend or eventual wife.
But here is my conclusion: Heartist is correct and girls just don’t understand and are not aware of their own hypergamy. Every single god damned time I’m nice, the girl WRONGLY sees it as weakness.
So my conclusion is that Heartist is right and you have to pretty much treat the like dirt. It’s frustrating.
It’s about being the right kind of asshole. As confident as you might be, there are still certain rules that are never to be broken. Make her work hard for your affection.
Some of that honestly hurt to read, Man Reader.
I’m an electrician and my income is about the same as yours. I always take women somewhere nice on dates, and I would never let a woman pay. I also pull out chairs and open doors. It’s never failed to sweep a woman off her feet.
I’m not sure what you are doing wrong, but I would definitely warn you against too much txting/calling. I’ve talen a girl out and ignored her for two weeks, and she was still txting me.
I think you are trying to buy pussy. You mentioned your money way too much. Just my opinion.
-Dr. Illusion
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