"Can Charisma Be Learned?" - Mister Infinite

Can charisma be learned?

What seems like a magical in-born trait can really be broken into several elements.

Halo effect
Strong Aura
Fascinating Tonality
Confident Body Language
Listen More Than You Talk
Master Playing The Lines Of Tension

And the good news?

ALL can be trained.

Here’s how.

Table of Contents

1. Halo Effect

The harsh truth is, attractive people are viewed more favorably.

So make yourself as attractive as possible muthafucka!

The basics:

Dress well
Whiten your teeth
Get regular haircuts

When you do this, your vibe starts to become mesmerizing.

Check out how hypnotic Suga Free’s shirt is in this video:

You can’t keep your eyes off it.

Now that’s how you command attention without even trying.

2. Strong Aura

Your aura is determined by your level of energy, mindset, and lifestyle.

When you:

you glow different.

Your 50 foot aura will hit everyone in every room you enter with a gut punch.

They will think:

“who is this guy and why is he so vibrant?”

You’ll stick out like a sore thumb compared to the invisible sea of “grey dudes” who live dull lives.

And this intrigue will open doors you didn’t even know existed.

After all, you never know who’s watching.

3. Fascinating Tonality

Pay attention to Future’s voice.

(It’s impossible to ignore).

Hear how it draws you in with its soothing, controlled cadence?

It isn’t shrill.
It isn’t erratic.
It isn’t trying too hard.

It’s purely hypnotic.

Why?

It contains the elements of mastery.

Intent.
Precision.
Command.

4. Confident Body Language

Body language is the universal language everyone subconsciously understands.

And when you make this understanding conscious, you can read minds.

After all, experts agree that 70-93% of all communication is non-verbal.

This is why it’s important to understand the key differences between weak vs strong body language.

The best resource to master it is: What Every Body Is Saying by ex-FBI agent Joe Navarro.
Another top resource is: The Definitive Book of Body Language: The Hidden Meaning Behind People’s Gestures and Expressions by Barbara and Allan Pease.

5. Listen More Than You Talk

People love to hear themselves talk, and they love you even more when you let them.

This is where you set yourself apart.

Where others constantly interrupt and speak over one another, you kick back and let them talk to themselves.

There’s a reason you have 2 ears and 1 mouth.

When you interject at key points to keep their social momentum going, they get high off it.

(And will perceive you as an excellent conversationalist).

6. Master Playing The Lines Of Tension

Why do some conversations hit and others fall flat?

The answer is: TENSION.

Charisma = being comfortable creating appropriate tension.

The sweet spot of good tension = not too much, not too little.

What are the elements of tension?

Pace.
Build-up / Suspense.
Pressure.
Resolution.

Without an even pace, the convo is boring and flaccid.

If it’s too fast, there’s no build-up.

i.e. using an ultimatum

If there’s too much tension, the convo is de-stabilizing.

i.e. threatening someone with a weapon.

But when it’s perfectly thick, you can’t be ignored.

The unresolved answer keeps people hooked and listening.

99% of the pleasure is in a skillful buildup.

And being “smooth” is aligning tension points.

The resolution is the dopamine hit.

It’s the outlet for all the tension that has been building.

Conclusion

Charisma comes down to:

Halo effect
Strong Aura
Fascinating Tonality
Confident Body Language
Listen More Than You Talk
Master Playing The Lines Of Tension

And if you practice them, you simply can’t lose.

P.S. Enjoy this post? Read “ON! For Him“.

It contains my best game essays, organized for your convenience.

Mister Infinite

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